Fluctuating attraction

Hello Ma’am Rica,

I indentify myself as being bisexual kasi equally attract­ed ako sexually sa mga lalaki as much as women. And okay lang naman ang boyfriend ko sa ganoon. At times, we do a threesome with another girl. Pero my question is more re­lated to my menstrual cycle. May different points kasi ng cycle ko na extreme. Pag mid-cycle ko, during ovula­tion, I am super attracted to men. Like I can’t get enough of my boyfriend. Tapos kapag mas malapit na akong mag­karoon, dun ako naghahanap ng female experience. Known condition ba ito or sadyang preference ko lang and hindi naman related sa period ko?

                                                          Thank you,

Bisikleta Fever

Hello Bisikleta Fever,

Fascinating ang phenomenon ng fluctuation ng attraction mo between sexes depending on your cycle. Unchartered territory ito at wala pang research na nagtatack­le nito. I cannot say for sure kung itong pattern ba ay same din sa iba or unique sa iyong sexuality at physiology.

Although known naman na ang ovulation at ang heightened libido or sexual attraction and activity ay related. Mas mataas talaga ang level during ovulation as nature’s way of signalling that you are ready for procreation. Nagbabago ang pitch ng boses, body scent at pananamit without actually being conscious about it. Mas mataas din ang level ng sexual fantasies during ovula­tion.

In the same way, your boy­friend is more aroused by you during ovulation. Ang mga lalaki din ay may mas mataas na level ng testosterone as a response to smelling a female who is ovulat­ing. Isa itong biological survival function.

Maganda ang pagiging aware mo sa patterns mong ganito. Maganda din na napapag-usapan ninyo ng iyong partner ang iyong pagiging bisexual and it’s good that he is okay with it. Regard­less of research, it’s essential na maging totoo sa iyong desires and keep listening to your body.

Be safe in more ways than one!

With love and lust,

Rica

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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Li­censed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.