Mutual masturbation

Dear Ma’am Rica,

May tanong ako na medyo situational. Hindi pa kami nagsesex ng girlfriend ko na tipong penetration. Pero active naman kami in other activities. Madalas kam­ing nag-e-engage sa mutual masturbation. Madalas na nauuna akong mag-climax. Tapos usual question nam­in sa isa’t-isa is kung how long before I can touch my partner’s vagina para safe? Or kung enough na ba na magpunas ako ng hands ko with tissues and hindi na siya mabubuntis?

Thank you.

Handyman

Hello Handyman,

Let me acknowledge muna ang inyong effort to hold on penetration until you are ready and for being mindful sa inyong sexual health. Kailangan i-prior­itize at maging educated tung­kol dito.

Ang masturbation ay usually ang first regular sexual activity for pleasure ng isang tao. And hindi siya necessarily kailan­gan laging solo play. Ito rin ay considered as one of the safer forms of sex play.

Sa situation na dinescribe mo, it appears na merong risk ng pag-transport ng iyong sperm sa partner mo. Merong precau­tions na puwede mong itake para hindi ganoong kataas ang risk ng pregnancy or even pag­kahawa sa sexually transmitted infections.

To begin with, mababa na ang risk of pregnancy with mutual masturbation. Basta tandaan na ma-avoid mo ang contact ng pre-ejaculate or ejaculate near or on the vulva of your partner.

Effective na rin ang pagda-dry ng hands with tissue or towel. Pero mas effective pa rin if you wash your hands thoroughly.

You can also consider the participation of other body parts like the mouth or hands since meron ding skills ang body parts na ito na wala sa iba and you may use for pleas­ing each other from the start.

Try to incorporate role play­ing, fantasy or toys also in your routine. Keep it always fun and interesting. Enjoy and always be safe.

With love and lust,

Rica

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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Mar­riage Counselor, and, Couples and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psycholo­gist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.