Hi Ma’am Rica,
Seven years na kami together ng boyfriend ko. Sexually active kami for the past two years. Madami akong nababasa na it’s not the size that matters pero what he can do with it. Pero parang medyo nagiging boring na. And of course, we want to spice things up naman. Mas interested akong malaman kung meron pa bang other uses of the penis apart from the in and out action? Salamat in advance.
Tunnel Vision
Hi to you, Tunnel Vision,
I am glad that your relationship seems to be going strong to last for seven years. It is also amazing that you were able to take that step in sexual activeness.
Minsan medyo challenge talaga to keep things interesting especially when you have been together for quite long. Pero wag kang mag-alala, maraming ways to “spice things up.”
Well-debated topic ang does size matter when it comes to the penis. Kailangan mo din maging mas open-minded when considering various sexual activities.
Madaming other activities that are sexy enough to be alternative to just penile penetration. Oral sex and hand jobs are other common activities worth exploring. Kailangan ninyo pagusapan ang pleasure in general. The best way is to ask and explore. You have to understand and know what makes sex pleasurable for you.
During foreplay, explore which parts of your bodies want to be touched, licked, kissed, or kung ano pa man. This goes both ways. Use other parts of your bodies to stimulate each other’s genitals and pleasure points.
A huge part of the sexual experience starts with the brain. May sex, role playing, fantasies, or even toys that you can use to keep the flames burning.
Pinakamahalaga ang open communication ninyo dito. With the exploration, I hope the two of you are also able to be mindful of reducing risk and keeping it safe. Always enjoy and be safe!
With love and lust,
Rica
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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and, Couples and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.
