Are orgasms the same?

Hello Ma’am Rica,

Ako naman ay very curious lang kung meron bang differ­ence ang orgasms ng men and women. Parang mas madali kasing mareach ang orgasm ng lalaki so I am not sure kung pareho lang sila ng sensation and biolog­ical differences.

                                                                        Thank you,

                                                                        Curious Cat

Hello Curious Cat,

Very interesting ang tanong mong ‘yan dahil siguro mahirap maimag­ine kung ano nga ba ang nararamdaman ng oppo­site sex during orgasm or how they feel leading to the big O.

And while there’s a lot of opinion sa differences in ability to orgasm be­tween genders, meron ding consensus na wa­lang major biological differences between the orgasms.

Differences in breath­ing, feeling of warmth, sweating, body vibra­tions, altered conscious­ness, at moaning ay ilan lang sa mga similarities during climax sa both sexes. Pero of course, magkaiba ang frequency at ability to orgasm be­tween sexes.

Anatomically and well, socioculturally, mas mad­aling makaexperience ng pleasure, arousal, and orgasm for those with a penis.

Within a particular gender din, puwedeng magkaron ng anatomi­cal differences na naka­kaapekto sa frequency ng orgasm ng ibang tao. Kagaya ng kapag mas malayo ang clitoris sa urethra, less ang chanc­es to achieve orgasm during penile penetra­tive sex.

On the flipside, while multiple orgasms gen­erally occur in females, meron ding instances na nakakaachieve ng multiple orgasms ang lalaki.

At the end of the day, kailangan nating tandaan na ang orgasm ay isang very subjec­tive and individual ex­perience. Walang single sure formula na gagana for all people regardless of gender.

Pero partly, ‘yun din ang fun with sex, plea­sure, and orgasms. So explore more and dis­cover more about your­self and your partner.

Try to figure out what works, what does not and everything else in between. Even with sex, communication works wonders. It’s the clos­est thing to learning how your partner actu­ally feels.

Be safe in more ways than one!

With love and lust,

Rica

Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Sex and Relationships Therapist, and Sex Educator. She opines that sexual em­powerment for Filipinos is sexier than sex.

You can catch more of her every Thursday at Boys’ Night Out, Magic 89.9 and follow her at facebook.com/TheSexy­Mind and @_ricacruz in Twitter and IG and sub­scribe to her YouTube channel, Count To Ten.