Dear Manay Gina,
I met a really funny guy last school semester. I felt that he was interested in me but nothing prospered between us because I had a boyfriend when we met. But when my relationship ended, I gave this funny guy my number and we started texting each other. We flirted a lot and we shared personal things with each other.
And then, I learned that he got back together with his long-term girlfriend. But while they’re together, we still continue texting each other. And then, one day, he sent me a text message saying that he liked me and that I was beautiful. To be honest, I’ve started to like this boy and I think he’s perfect for me. Do you think our texting can be considered cheating? And, should I ask him to break up with his girlfriend to be with me?
Dahlia
Dear Dahlia,
Golf superstar Tiger Woods and TV celebrity Jesse James, who was once married to actress Sandra Bullock, have seen their lives unravel amid revelations of cheating on their spouses, in part by arranging their dangerous liaisons via text messages.
If this funny man of yours is with a long-term girlfriend, and he’s still texting and privately communicating with you continuously, then, I think you are participating in his emotional infidelity. It is really not the act of doing, but the intentions behind the texting.
Now, on the question on whether you will ask him to break up with his girl, and be with you: Well, at present, he’s clearly showing you – through his actions with his girlfriend, exactly the kind of boyfriend he is. If that’s what you want for yourself, then go for it.
With affection,
Manay Gina
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“Infidelity is horrible – there’s nothing worse than that; it’s devastating.” – Jessica Capshaw
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