Fast release

Hi Ms. Rica,

Nag BJ po ako sa boyfriend ko, tapos wala pang isang minuto nung natapos siya. Is that normal? Ibig sabihin po ba nun na magaling ako mag-BJ?

BJ Girl

Hello BJ Girl,

Congratulations at mukhang ginalingan mo nga para sa iyong partner. Though, may iba’t ibang factors na kailangan i-consider when we talk about a person’s or­gasm, so it’s difficult to really pin­point what made your boyfriend come in less than a minute. May­roong mga instances na mabilis labasan ang mga lalake (at kahit mga babae).

Depende ‘yun sa emotional at physical reactions niya na naka­kaapekto sa kaniyang thoughts, blood flow, sensitivity, and arous­al. Kapag pinagsama sama mo ito, with the pressure, sensation, and friction from your tongue, mouth, lips, saliva, etc., ito naman ang nakakaapekto sa kaniyang erec­tion, lubrication, and time from arousal to ejaculation.

So para malaman kung ano talaga ang dahilan sa kaniyang mabilis na pagtatapos, it may be key to ask him directly!

Ano kayang ginawa mo para masarapan siya agad? May na­tamaan ka ba with your tongue? Or baka may pressure from your hands or fingers na nakapagpata­pos sa kaniya.

It would be helpful kung mata­tanong mo sa kaniya kung ano ba ang nagustuhan niya. Was it the friction? The pressure? The thoughts? Your scent?

Similarly, ikaw din, pwede mong sabihin sa kaniya kung ano naman ang magugustuhan mo. Kung palaging natatapos ang boyfriend mo nang mabilisan, it is crucial na hindi ikaw nabibitin.

Because sex is a two way street. Kung nasarapan siya, da­pat masarapan ka rin!

If you see your boyfriend’s “fast” reaction as a problem, baka rin makatulong kung mag­try kayo ng mga techniques like the “squeeze method” and the “start-stop method” to help him last longer.

You may also want to focus on more foreplay para hindi siya maexcite masyado. Kung ano man ang gusto niyong gawin, it is always best to keep an open communication para maging pleasurable for the both of you ang inyong sexual experience. Good luck!

With love and lust,

Rica

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If you have questions on love and sex that you want me to answer, you may message me at www.facebook.com/TheSexy­Mind.

Biography: Rica Cruz is a Li­censed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and, Couples and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.